I’m always amazed how shocked parents are when I simply take them on a tour of the top 10 songs in the charts at any given time.
Many of you have heard me take parents on this tour (here’s me doing it in Amish PA). In a world where young people average 2 hours a day listening to music, it’s always wise to hear what messages they’re gleaning through their headphones. Today… that message happens to be pretty sexually charged.
David and I just did a quick review of the top 10 in this week’s YOUTH CULTURE WINDOW article. Take a peek at what our kids are hearing this summer and several free resources we provide to engage kids in meaningful conversation about these songs.
SEXY SONGS OF THE SUMMER
Last month a youth pastor friend called and left me a message:
Jonathan, we have a teen who sent a naked pic of himself to some girls at his school (Christian school), and now everyone at the school has seen it. It’s all everyone’s talking about at youth group. How do I deal with this?
I wish I could say the situation is uncommon.
No, I’m not going to tell you that every kid with a phone is posting nudes, but we do live in a day where SEND NUDES is definitely “no big deal.” And even if kids aren’t sending nudes Continue reading “When teens regret what they post” »
We’ve all been in the grocery store line at one time or another where we glanced to our peripheral only to see provocative images and headlines paraded across the front of a magazine cover. Of course, now these same periodicals offer online versions as well, clickable from frequented locations like Snapchat (the overwhelming favorite communication choice of young people today, by a landslide).
Do you think your kids ever peek at these?
I asked a handful of kids last week. “When you’re browsing Snap stories and you see an interesting Cosmo or Daily Mail headline… do you click on it?”
Every kid I asked said yes.
Do you have any idea what your teens and tweens are reading? Continue reading “Porn in plain sight” »
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In the youth ministry world, February is the time to talk about sex and dating. So I thought I’d give you the outline of one of my sex talks (or Download Youth Ministry put their professional flair on it HERE with readymade slides, the complete transcript and small group questions, all for just a few bucks. Those guys rock!)
In this talk I equip young people how to actually save sex in a world that exploits it. In other words, how can I “flee”? (This talk is drawn from chapter 2 in my book to teens, Sex Matters.)
TALK TITLE: What do you mean, “Flee”?
INTRODUCTION: I tell a story of a teenaged boy and his girlfriend going to her house after school. Her parents aren’t home, they go upstairs to her room “to talk”, begin kissing, the laying down… and next thing they know they end up having sex.
The young man goes to his youth pastor and tells him, “We didn’t intend to do it. It just happened. We couldn’t stop! Why?”
The youth pastor wisely responded, “Because you weren’t designed to stop Continue reading “Here’s my sex talk” »
Pop singer Ariana Grande went on a Tweet rant about being “objectified.”
I’m sorry. I’m trying my hardest to not roll on the ground laughing.
I honestly checked the date. Nope. Not April 1st. I was about to check Quentin Tarantino’s Twitter and see if he was upset about gratuitous violence.
Apparently Ariana was getting food with her boyfriend, rapper Mac Miller last week when a young boy approached the two of them Continue reading “Ariana Grande upset about being objectified” »
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The CDC posted a press release last month revealing STDs are at an unprecedented high in the U.S. In fact, “despite recent declines, 2015 was the second year in a row in which increases were seen in all three nationally reported STDs.” It will be interesting to see where these numbers come in at the end of 2016. The increases from just 2014 to 2015 ranged from a 5.9% increase of chlamydia to a 19.0% increase of P&S syphilis.
This is where everyone begins tossing theories around. Some blame Continue reading “why STDs are at an unprecedented high” »
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Today’s young people love Netflix. It’s mobile, it’s commercial free, and as a bonus… most parents have no idea what their kids are watching.
That’s why parents should probably be aware of the new sexually-charged Netflix original series, Easy, streaming on their devices starting today, September 22nd. The show follows (and I quote) “diverse Chicagoans fumbling through the modern maze of love, sex, technology and culture.”
I’m not telling you to write your congressman and get the show banned. I’m just suggesting, in a world where 49% of 15-20-year-olds stream on demand content like Netflix daily, and 78% of “on their own Millennials” have subscriptions to these entertainment venues… it might be good to know what exactly it is they’re watching, how we can use Netflix binging for bonding, and how to respond if we discover them watching mature or adult content (which is why I’m going to provide you with 3 ways to overreact react when this happens).
In the trailer we observe…
Demi Lovato is in the headlines again with her sexy new release, Body Say.
Sadly, her story isn’t very unique:
- Disney star. My own girls watched her show Sonny with a Chance and the Camp Rock movies.
- At age 18, she dropped out of a tour because of some “emotional and physical issues” (self-mutilation, eating disorders).
- She returned to the scene with a new confidence… in fact… the name of her new album last year was Confident, sporting her new sexy look… and sexy new songs (you probably our post about her song Cool for the Summer, a song about her desire for a lesbian hook up).
Well Demi’s back, and she’s pushing the sexy envelope again with her Continue reading “From Disney Star to Vixen” »
In 2013 The Discovery Channel launched a show with the title Naked and Afraid. It’s now in its 5th season. The following year VH1 launched Dating Naked. The Season 3 premier was on last week.
What’s next… Bowling Naked?
Nudity has been a draw for audiences since before I was born, but now, much more commonplace. Many of you might recall an article I wrote on the subject in 2013, The Naked Truth. That previous TV season had seen a 407 percent increase of “blurred nudity” than the season prior.
Continue reading “The Draw of Nudity” »
Are kids having more sex than years prior?
Are kids smoking more or less pot?
What about texting and driving?
The Center for Disease Control (CDC) just released their brand new Youth Risk Behavior Survey, a study released every other year asking teenagers about risky behaviors such as smoking, drinking, fighting at school, sexual activity… and even if they wear a seatbelt. The report breaks the numbers down by state, race, or grade, as well as providing national averages.
Here’s a few highlights:
- 41% of high school students have had sexual intercourse (58% of seniors).
- 30% of high school students are currently sexually active (46% of seniors)
- 39% of high school students have ever used marijuana (50% of seniors)
- 22% of high school students are current users of marijuana (28% of seniors)
- 42% of high school students have texted while driving a car in the last 30 days (61% of seniors)
Continue reading “Are Today’s Teens Taking Less Risks?” »