Last week I was in a corner booth at a local pizza place with four 8thgrade boys. The conversation was typical middle school boys—all over the place.
“Hey man, look at my new phone case!”
“I got one too, see?”
“I got it for Christmas.”
“Do you know what I got for Christmas? Your mom!”
After eating and listening to them talk (as if they had never had anyone listen to them before), I told them we were going to go around the table and each finish the following sentence:
“If you know me, you know I…. but if you reallyknew me, you’d know…”
I gave them an example.
“If you know me, you know I have no problem speaking to large crowds. But if you reallyknew me, you’d know that I’m actually pretty scared to talk with someone one-on-one and I get nervous and bumble up the conversation.”
I told them they could go as deep as they wanted. No pressure. It was up to them.
And everything changed.
Kids began to share deep things about themselves. Tough family struggles. Insecurities. The death of a parent. It was awesome. I love it when I’m able to make kids feel noticed and heard.
Whenever you create a safe place where kids can talk and people will listen, kids will typically open up.
What questions have worked for you?
Many of you already read on my Facebook page that we had a crazy weekend–while I was in St. Louis speaking, Lori was rushed to the hospital to have her appendix removed.
The surgery went well, but her recovery has been a little slower than expected. Doc said even though her appendix hadn’t ruptured, it had turned nasty and adhered to her bowel and started spreading the nasty (I paraphrase). So her bowel was really angry at her and the docs were trying to fight it with antibiotics.
She ended up staying two nights in the hospital and finally got to come home last night. Now she’s on bedrest and I’m bringing her soup, liquids, too many meds to count, etc.
Those of you who are used to seeing new resources being posted to TheSource4YM.com and TheSource4Parents.com are seeing a lag… because Lori is the backbone of posting stuff to these sites. So this week EVERYONE is going to be missing Lori big time (life of the small non-profit).
So rest assured… more free resources are coming. Just pray for Lori’s speedy recovery.
So glad to have my girl home!!!
“Lord, we pray for the man you have for Ashley.”
Last Friday night, that prayer was answered, and my baby girl got engaged to an amazing young man!
Some of you remember seeing Ashley grown up. She often traveled with me at my parent workshops, and even helped with some of the parenting videos we did on YouTube. Well, Ash is Continue reading “My baby is getting married” »
The fires are raging once again here in California, and it’s hitting where both my daughter’s live. Luckily, they both came home (up here in NorCal).
Here’s a quick satellite shot of the fire raging from Ventura toward Santa Barbara.
My oldest daughter is on mandatory evacuation Continue reading “Fires a little too close to home” »
This year I flew over 100,000 miles, mostly domestic. That means a lot of security lines, boarding groups, layovers… and bad airport food. It also means learning a few tricks of the trade actually getting from A to B (while many others were stuck in A for days at a time).
I’ve been doing this for two decades now, and in those years I’ve learned a lot of travel lessons the hard way. I’ve also observed a lot of people missing flights and having their vacations completely ruined for one simple reason…
That’s not an insult… I mean it in the true sense of the word. They just didn’t know better because no one had ever told them vital information… like if you are Continue reading “10 Flight Tips If You Actually Want to Get There” »
Youth Ministry lost a good friend this past weekend. My friend Rob Maxey, Executive Director of Youth for Christ here in Sacramento passed away Friday after a long battle with cancer.
Even if you didn’t have the pleasure of meeting Rob, many of you actually knew him by reputation. Rob is the friend I featured in my book CONNECT who literally taught me how to talk with kids on campus (the guy who said, “Hi, I’m his parole officer”). Rob is the friend whose stories I’ve used at countless youth ministry trainings and parent workshops because of his amazing grasp on how to connect with today’s young people Continue reading “Lost a friend” »
I didn’t expect it. I was visiting Maui by myself for the quickest trip to the island I’ve ever had, there and back in just a weekend for a friend’s wedding (not the choice way to do Maui). The ceremony was ocean-side in the beautiful Kahanu Gardens in Hana, a truly precarious drive, but breathtaking scenery.
As we were waiting for the ceremony to begin… this man caught my eye.
He was Hawaiian with a chiseled jaw, a tribal tattoo on his left cheek, and his grey hair pulled back tightly into a bun. He was probably one of the eldest people at the wedding, but no doubt one of the most physically strong. He was perfectly composed Continue reading “A remarkable man” »
We’ve taken a week off and today we are embarking on a dolphin zodiac excursion. The plan is to take a zodiac into the middle of the pacific and swim with Flipper and all his friends! (We’re pretty excited)
If you never hear from us again, that means we mistook sharks for dolphins. Oh well… at least we’ll go out together!
I love being with this girl!
Happy Anniversary, my love!
It’s been a fun year on this blog. We’ve had a bunch of exciting contests and giveaways, not to mention… this blog grabbed the No. 12 spot in the most recent TOP 30 YOUTH MINISTRY BLOGS from YouthMinistry.com. Good times!
I pulled up my stats and looked at the top 10 posts you guys trafficked this year… some really good ones.
Here’s what you liked the most:
Continue reading “Top 10 Posts of 2016” »