Nicki Minaj and Other Top Female Role Models

MTV-VMAs-Nicki-ArianaThis last Sunday night MTV revealed something new about today’s most popular music stars… they are mostly female.

It was an incontestable reality at MTV’s VMAs this year. Ladies swept the awards. In fact they won almost every single award except Best Male Video.

So what are our daughters gleaning from these female role models?

The VMAs
Sadly, the entertainment industry is providing most of the role models for many young people today. And if you glimpse at a show as powerful as the MTV VMAs, a show that last year was cable’s #1 entertainment telecast of 2013 among 12-34 year-olds, you’ll discover who many of these role models are, and you’ll garner a pretty accurate a sampling of their content and fashion choices.

In fact, if you had been secluded on a desert island for the last 20 years with no phone, Wi-Fi, or electricity… and now fancied a crash course on today’s pop-youth-culture… I would tell you to simply watch the MTV Video Music Awards (the VMAs). Each year this show truly provides a sobering glimpse into the porthole of what teens see, hear, and emulate daily. (My good friend David R. Smith and I just finished our brand new Youth Culture Window article about that event, The Girls of the MTV VMAs. You can read that HERE.)

So, without rehashing what we just wrote in that YCW article, who are some of these key female role models in the limelight today?

Nicki Minaj, Beyonce, Taylor Swift, Iggy Azalea, Ariana Grande… they were all there, all have songs and videos at the top of the charts, and all are on our kids radar.

For the sake of this blog, let me just focus on Nicki Minaj. After all, she not only has just beat Michael Jackson out with more hits in the Billboard Hot 100, she was one of the most featured artists Sunday, performing literally three times (more than anyone else).

Nicki Minaj
I’ve blogged about Nicki before. Nicki kicked off the show this year with a performance of her new song Anaconda… a song bearing the title about a guy’s penis.

This rap tells the story of her sexual encounters with a few boys, but also discusses her recreational drug use:

I’m high as hell, I only took a half of pill
I’m on some dumb sh*t…

The song goes on to talk about having sex with the guys that love her big butt:

He can tell I ain’t missing no meals
Come through and f**k em in my automobile…

But it goes into more detail, talking specifically about each of their genitals:

This dude named Michael used to buy motorcycles
D**k bigger than a tower, I ain’t talking about Eiffel
Real country ass nigga, let me play with his rifle
P**sy put his *ss to sleep, now he calling me NyQuil…

Like it or hate it, this song debuted at #19 on the Billboard charts, and is currently No. 5 on the iTunes charts. (You can read the entire lyrics to Anaconda here.)

Some people respect Nicki because she’s a strong female figure who isn’t afraid to carry a little extra weight on her backside. Nicki made that clear on Sunday night, twerking her backside, singing about it, and displaying it proudly in various revealing outfits.

Confident? Definitely.

Responsible? Principled? Decent? You’d have to watch her performance, singing the lyrics above and simulating sex with her dancers on stage.

What do you think the millions of teen and tween girls in the television and Internet audience will glean from Nicki’s performance?

Is it any surprise that our daughters are slowly becoming sexualized by elements like this in our pop culture?

How can we teach our girls truth in a world so abundant with these lies?

JONATHAN HAS WRITTEN OVER A DOZEN BOOKS, INCLUDING GET YOUR TEENAGER TALKING, 10-MINUTE TALKS, AND THE GUY’S GUIDE TO GOD, GIRLS, AND THE PHONE IN YOUR POCKET

About Jonathan McKee

president of The Source for Youth Ministry, is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices, If I Had a Parenting Do Over, 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He has over 20 years youth ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers and parents on his websites, TheSource4YM.com and TheSource4Parents.com. You can follow Jonathan on his blog, getting a regular dose of youth culture and parenting help. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.
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2 Responses to Nicki Minaj and Other Top Female Role Models

  1. Preston RIch says:

    I agree! The VMA’s made me SICK! All it did was glorify sex, drugs, lust, and booty shaking! Sad that it is the most popular thing watched by millions of kids everywhere! We have to stop this madness and not let our children be brain washed by their tactics to get them! If parents would be parents and stand up for what’s right and not let their children watch that crap then we would see a big change in society! I have 6 kids of which two are girls so this disturbs me that it is presented as “the thing to be”. I pray that God comes back soon because this world is almost to the point of “throwing up” because of all of the bad stuff in it!

  2. Kara says:

    I am a youth pastor and I was looking for Christian books for my girls in my youth group. I was disgusted by what I found. Majority of the christian fiction books marketed to teen girls are about dating. I find this very disheartening. I don’t want the girls’ lives to revolve around the world’s pressure to date or else there is something wrong with you. Instead I want them to be more enthralled with the King of the Universe, studying him, knowing his voice and following it. More worried about filling the mission of spreading the Gospel, than what they wear, how they look, and what other’s think. The shallowness of Christian culture, is maybe even more disturbing than Nikki.