A couple weeks ago Doug Fields finally released a book I’ve been eagerly awaiting, a candid marriage book to men titled, 7 Ways to Be Her Hero.
Speaking frankly, I’m just not that excited about most marriage books. Many of them just don’t seem to provide anything new. But Doug has a history of providing a unique insight into daily life, and he always makes me laugh in the process. Besides, at one time the working title of this book was How Not to Suck as a Husband… so I was eagerly awaiting it (because I don’t want to suck as a husband!!!).
It released about a week ago and I used my Amazon Prime to get the paperback in just two days (I’m not a Kindle guy or I would have grabbed the $2.99 deal they had going). Saturday I opened the book and I literally read about two thirds of it in one sitting. It was that good. I had to go, so I posted a quick Tweet about something Doug made me feel guilty about… and picked the book back up the next day and finished it.
I loved this book.
- It’s refreshingly direct… dare I say “blunt.” Doug has never been one to hold back, and he doesn’t with this book. He tells men exactly what they need to hear. Actually… what I needed to hear.
- It’s funny. Doug constantly exposes many of the quirks and idiosyncrasies any married couple would identify with today and pokes at them.
- But his humor is usually followed by heart. He constantly made me think about my attitudes and behaviors in my marriage. Very relevant.
- His advice is always followed by real life examples. When Doug advises us how to encourage our wife, he gives us several ways to do it (usually with one hilarious example).
Doug’s real-life application is extremely helpful in this book. Personally, I found his sections about “don’t say everything you think” very applicable, with examples of what to say instead. His section on sharing feelings was helpful as well, using “feeling” language instead of “thinking” language.
Men aren’t always great readers, so if they’re the type who won’t crack a book, this book is perfect for a men’s group to read a chapter or two at a time, then meet and talk about it each week. (Let’s face it… accountability is great for men.)
Either way… I unreservedly recommend this book to all husbands. They’ll enjoy it thoroughly.