Dad’s Version of “Rude”

Dad-Rude-ParodyMagic’s song “Rude” has been at the top of the charts for over a month now, currently at the No. 1 spot on Billboard, Spotify and iTunes. And now, a parody of the song is going viral on YouTube.

Magic’s version (the one you hear playing in Target, the Grocery Store and the gas station literally every hour of every day) is a song about a young man asking his girlfriend’s dad for his daughter’s hand in marriage. When he find’s out the answer is “no’, he decided he’s “gonna marry her anyway.”

Here’s a peek at some of the lyrics:

Saturday morning jumped out of bed
And put on my best suit
Got in my car and raced like a jet
All the way to you
Knocked on your door with heart in my hand
To ask you a question
‘Cause I know that you’re an old-fashioned man, yeah

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life?
Say yes, say yes ’cause I need to know
You say I’ll never get your blessing ’til the day I die
Tough luck, my friend, but the answer is ‘No’

Why you gotta be so rude?
Don’t you know I’m human too?
Why you gotta be so rude?
I’m gonna marry her anyway

Fun song, very catchy… and when it first came out, it kicked off some pretty intriguing discussion in my car. Another perfect opportunity for parents to ask teenagers a simple question then just listen. (I’m always on the lookout for springboards that Get Your Teenager Talking)

When I heard this song, I simply asked my daughters, “Is he right?”

Boom… heated discussion. (Is this young man a brat or is this dad too ‘old fashioned’ and controlling? Do young men still need to ask for permission, or is that a dead ritual?) I’m always amazed at the effectiveness of well placed questions rather than lectures.

Apparently my car wasn’t the only place this song was being discussed. This creative little ditty even provoked Time Magazine to ask etiquette expert Lizzie Post to chime in and answer, “is this really rude?” Post provides an interesting little history about this tradition.

And when a song gets this popular, it doesn’t take long for a fun parody to release, and this particular one has already garnered over 7 million YouTube views. Let’s just say this is “Dad’s version” of the song.

As usual, some interesting discussion as already bubbled in the comments section of this YouTube video. Like this comment, from a guy:

This is kind of perpetuating the medieval concept that a marriage should be decided among two men (the father and the husband-to-be) and that the daughter has no say in the matter. Why can’t he trust her to marry who she wants? 

I know people say that it’s a joke and shouldn’t be taken seriously, but the fact that this video can be made and that people are supporting these ideas are showing that sexism is still around, even if it’s not on a surface level.

Thoughts?

HERE’S OUR FREE “RUDE” MUSIC DISCUSSION FOR YOUTH WORKERS, INCLUDING SCRIPTURE AND SMALL GROUP Q’S

HERE’S OUR FREE “RUDE” MUSIC DISCUSSION FOR PARENTS, INCLUDING SCRIPTURE AND DISCUSSION Q’S

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Promiscuity or Monogamy

true monogamyWhat’s more enjoyable, a monogamous sexual relationship, or promiscuity (sleeping with whoever you want)?

Most entertainment media seems to lean towards the latter. Why is this? Does promiscuity really make more sense?

This week I finished writing a book to teenagers about sex that will be released at the end of this year/early next year. It’s a book addressing some pretty candid questions about sex and intimacy. In a world full of explicit lies, this book shares the explicit truth.

One fun aspect of this project was showing what current research reveals about sexual satisfaction in relationships. In other words, in a world where very few people seem to care what the Bible says, it’s fun to see if Biblical concepts like monogamy actually make sense Continue reading “Promiscuity or Monogamy” »

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Epic Games

Thumbs-UpIT’S TIME FOR A SIMPLE CONTEST! Submit your idea and the top three ideas win big from my friends over at Download Youth Ministry.

WINNERS POSTED! SEE BELOW.

You see, in the last 5 days I’ve been called upon twice by Ashley, my 16-year-old daughter, to provide her with a failsafe game. The pressure was on!

Dad, don’t let me down!

So here’s the two foolproof games I gave her Continue reading “Epic Games” »

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The Most Pain I’ve Ever Experienced

my-shoulder“You’re 44-years-old. You know you’re not a kid anymore, right?”

I’ve heard that a dozen times in the last four days. Starting with one of the nurses as I was being rolled out of the ambulance into the ER.

It was somewhere between 30 and 40 feet up. It was a bridge and all the teenagers were jumping off it. I don’t know if “teenagers” is the key word there or “jumping” was the key word. Because I’m not a teenager and I “dove.” Regardless, I dislocated my shoulder. (I wish I had a picture to show you. Grossest thing I’ve seen. It was completely out of the socket.)

“Make sure you check the water for rocks and any obstacles.” I always told my kids. Continue reading “The Most Pain I’ve Ever Experienced” »

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Kids or Adults?

Dad watching TVThe biggest complaint I hear from parents is about the amount of time their kids are glued to their entertainment and technology.

Kids are glued?

Pop Quiz: Which generation watches more TV in America?

A.  My 16-year-old daughter?
B.  My 21-year-old son?
C.  Me (44, yet young and ruggedly handsome?)
D.  My 72-year-old dad?

In a world where young people spend so much time glued to screens, the answer might surprise some of you. The answer is Continue reading “Kids or Adults?” »

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64 Percent of High School Seniors Have Had Sex

teens in loveAre more kids having sex than years prior?

The answer depends on where and when.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) just released their brand new Youth Risk Behavior Survey (one of the three studies I’ve been anticipating), a study released every other year that asks teenagers about risky behaviors such as smoking, drinking, fighting at school, sexual activity… and even if they wear a seatbelt. The report breaks the numbers down by state, race, or grade, as well as providing national averages.

As an author who is just finishing up two books about sex, one to parents and another to teenagers, I immediately turned to Continue reading “64 Percent of High School Seniors Have Had Sex” »

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A Book All Husbands Should Read

Doug Fields Great Marriage BookA couple weeks ago Doug Fields finally released a book I’ve been eagerly awaiting, a candid marriage book to men titled, 7 Ways to Be Her Hero.

Speaking frankly, I’m just not that excited about most marriage books. Many of them just don’t seem to provide anything new. But Doug has a history of providing a unique insight into daily life, and he always makes me laugh in the process. Besides, at one time the working title of this book was How Not to Suck as a Husband… so I was eagerly awaiting it (because I don’t want to suck as a husband!!!).

It released about a week ago and I used my Amazon Prime to get the paperback in just two days (I’m not a Kindle guy or I would have grabbed the $2.99 deal they had going). Saturday I opened the book and I literally read about two thirds of it in one sitting. It was that good. Continue reading “A Book All Husbands Should Read” »

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Teen Online Behavior 2014

Teenager-Online-DangersLast week McAfee released their newest Teens and Screens study to help us understand exactly what our kids are doing online.

The report revealed some interesting findings about teens’ online habits.

Here are a few observations worth noting:

Teenagers Love Talking with Strangers:

  • 59% of teenagers engage with strangers online.
  • 1 in 12 meet the online stranger in real life.
  • 33% of teenagers feel more accepted online than in real life.

This report isn’t alone in their findings. Just a few weeks ago Continue reading “Teen Online Behavior 2014” »

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Training Your Own Volunteers

pictureIf you’re a ministry leader, what do you do to keep you leaders sharp?

It didn’t take long for me to discover that all my volunteers enjoyed two things: food and socializing. So I decided to provide both, by gathering all my volunteers together once a month for dinner, with a little dash of training and equipping. My budget was small so we just did a potluck dinner at a different house each month. We would spend the first hour just eating and enjoying each other’s company. Once we finished eating, I spent a little time teaching them about youth culture or sharpening their ministry skills.

So what kind of training can we offer our volunteers without having to bring in a professional? Continue reading “Training Your Own Volunteers” »

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3 Studies I Eagerly Await

teen-social-media-hookup-cultureAs you know, I like to keep my thumb on the pulse of youth culture. (Funny analogy. Does anyone really take someone’s pulse with a thumb?) This means hanging out with teenagers, but also keeping my eyes on research about youth culture and technology.

Currently there are three reports I am eagerly awaiting because of what they tell us about teens and tweens today Continue reading “3 Studies I Eagerly Await” »

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